1 SHAMASH.ORG /usr/www/wwwhc/listserv/archives/torch-d September 2001 1 1957 24_Re: How to Ask a Shaiila0_20_rkahan@attglobal.net30_Sun, 2 Sep 2001 14:08:29 -0700486_iso-8859-1 It doesnt seem all that easy to me. For one thing, you have to know each kid. This is a boy who wouldnt get up even if i woke him several times. He would just lie in bed. I would have to always reach a point that i would get angry and yell at him before he would get his head off the pillow. On shabbos, vacation days etc, he would sleep in really late. Now BH he gets up the first or second time i wake him up. He gets up nicely and acts like he's really serious about [...]44_000f01c133f3$6b6a90a0$494f6620@kahanfamilyco 1959 332 14_Re: Happy news15_Shoshana Sloman19_ssloman@hotmail.com30_Mon, 3 Sep 2001 19:51:26 -0500534_iso-8859-1 Re: Happy newsI wasn't trying to say that there was a halacha in that particular case. In fact, if you would ask the person which halacha she is concerned about, it might point out to her that it would be inappropriate to ask a shaila. On the other hand, if there really would be a case that would create a dysfunctional family (as you say they are worried about), I can see how that would not be a mitzvah! (Please do not misunderstand - I am CERTAINLY not implying that it would be the case in the situation you are [...]40_3Sep200119:51:26-0500ssloman@hotmail.com 2292 1025 24_Re: How to Ask a Shaiila15_Shoshana Sloman19_ssloman@hotmail.com30_Mon, 3 Sep 2001 21:32:01 -0500225_iso-8859-1 Does the person actually physically make sure the boys each get out of bed, or just wake them up?
Also, i do consider the fact that out of town yeshivos typically have someone who comes in and wakes up the boys.40_3Sep200121:32:01-0500ssloman@hotmail.com 3318 1176 18_MESSAGE GUIDELINES9_S. Sloman19_ssloman@hotmail.com30_Wed, 5 Sep 2001 09:48:57 -0500411_iso-8859-1 Here again are some message guidelines. I hope they are helpful.

1 - Please either excerpt or restate information you are responding to in a message, because a short reply (like "Thanks." or "Where can I get that?") can be unclear.

2 - Messages directed specifically to one other listmember, and not of interest to the general list, should be sent to that person in private email. [...]40_5Sep200109:48:57-0500ssloman@hotmail.com 4495 72 60_Re: Oh please dont tell me I have to deal with this woman !!9_S. Sloman19_ssloman@hotmail.com30_Fri, 7 Sep 2001 10:45:04 -0500461_iso-8859-1 Since you have a reason to have to interact with this woman, I would just
state simply and clearly, without explanation, that you have chosen to
homeschool. You don't need to defend your decision to her or argue or
convince her. You can just say, "Thanks for your input," when she keeps
harping on this. The less you vary your responses and the less additional
information you give, the sooner her behavior should extinguish. :-) [...]40_7Sep200110:45:04-0500ssloman@hotmail.com 4568 262 24_Re: How to Ask a Shaiila9_S. Sloman19_ssloman@hotmail.com30_Fri, 7 Sep 2001 10:46:58 -0500386_iso-8859-1 If he has insomnia, then that is going to be a major obstacle to getting up! Has he had any treatment for sleep problems? Apparently a lot can be done to help with that, and a rabbi who was a day school principal once told me that it is very important to get sleep problems dealt with asap before it causes the kind of negative snowballing you describe in your message. [...]40_7Sep200110:46:58-0500ssloman@hotmail.com 4831 2273 23_Re: How To Ask A Shaila9_S. Sloman19_ssloman@hotmail.com30_Fri, 7 Sep 2001 10:38:44 -0500460_iso-8859-1 How To Ask A ShailaChana, your message is so beautifully put. As we are now in the month of Elul, I also would like to take this opportunity to ask forgiveness of anyone on the list whom I may have offended in any way.

Shoshana Sloman
torch-d listowner
----- Original Message -----
From: Eli Silberstein
To: About religious Jewish home schooling
Sent: Wednesday, September 05, 2001 2:43 PM
Subject: How To Ask A Shaila [...]40_7Sep200110:38:44-0500ssloman@hotmail.com 7105 1229 27_Re: ADD homework strategies9_S. Sloman19_ssloman@hotmail.com31_Mon, 10 Sep 2001 09:32:16 -0500634_iso-8859-1 Barbara, I like that your answer reflects the philosophy that a child
should know herself and her personal challenges, and work with them, rather
than expecting the environment to adapt to her, necessarily. This is a big
issue within homeschooling, because we do endeavor to suit the educational
style and materials to the individual child, so there can be more of a risk
of missing out on those oppotunities for learning to overcome one's internal
obstacles. As parent/educators, we need to get to know our children's
weaknesses, as well as their talents, so we can challenge them to grow in
[...]41_10Sep200109:32:16-0500ssloman@hotmail.com 8335 1094 20_Wishing You All Well9_S. Sloman19_ssloman@hotmail.com31_Fri, 14 Sep 2001 15:29:32 -0500469_iso-8859-1 Before Shabbos, I just want to extend my feelings of sympathy and support to those of you who have been affected directly or indirectly (as I think we all have) by the terrorist attack on the US. Know that our thoughts and prayers are with you. Have confidence and take courage in the knowledge that we will all stand together as a nation, with the support of the entire civilized world, to help one another and to fight against this kind of barbarism. [...]41_14Sep200115:29:32-0500ssloman@hotmail.com